When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldnt feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Not talk or do - just hear me.
I can do for myself; Im not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I stop trying to convince you and can
get about the business of understanding whats behind this irrational feeling.
And when thats clear, the answers are obvious and I dont need advice.
So, please listen and hear me, and if you want to talk, wait,?
And I will listen to you.
Anonymous
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